What a diabetic should expect from a significant other

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There is a great deal your boyfriend/husband can do to help support you and your type 1 diabetes. First and foremost, they must be willing to learn about your diabetes. Don’t make them read a 200 page book on it (unless they want to) but, DO gradually communicate the things you know about your diabetes in small doses. If he really loves you he will want to know as much as possible. If he is hesitant, try to find out the root of this. For example, maybe he is scared or intimidated. Or perhaps he is does not grasp the seriousness of having diabetes. He will as time goes by. Just be patient and loving and very open to questions.

My husband had no clue how serious and complicated diabetes was for a long time while we dated. He has family members with type 2 so he figured it was something like that. I slowly filled him in though. If my blood sugar was really low I would demonstrate a certain sense of urgency and also explain what might happen if I didn’t get sugar ASAP. When my blood sugar was high I would explain my symptoms and what the consequences were of this. I would explain to him how the diabetes affected me emotionally and how having blood sugar levels out of good range encouraged my moodiness.

Different types of men will call for different modes of communication. You will be able to gauge how much information he can take at once and learn how to “teach” him about your diabetes. If after a good period of time however, he is unwilling to learn or has a low interest in learning about your diabetes, you must consider this a big problem in the relationship. Your type 1 diabetes is very serious and someone so close to you must help and not hinder your goals of staying healthy and getting support when needed. Remember, if he doesn’t support your diabetes, he doesn’t support YOU.

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