I feel like I’ve arrived at a pretty decent place (wasn’t always this way). It involves self appreciation and self respect. It highly influences my diabetes management and my control of that pesky depression issue…
Maybe you’ve already noticed but, I’ve got a bit of a “loner” personality. I’m not the type to bend to peer pressure and I never was a “social drinker”. Heck I can enjoy champagne all by myself. I used to love eating alone at a restaurant and even going to the movie theater alone. And I didn’t go in hiding or as if ashamed to be alone. Red lipstick and high heels came along for a fabulous night out with moi. This had nothing to do with picking up a date or anything either. It was about just getting excited to spend quality time with myself. Long ago the thought of going out alone would have killed me. Now I’ve romanticized the idea of taking care of myself and appreciating my own company. I honestly have convinced myself it’s the cool and fabulous thing to do. After all, we are all worth treating ourselves right, right?
This doesn’t mean I put others last or that I always put myself first. It just means that instead of bashing myself all day, I try to be nicer and more appreciative. The way my body looks drives me bonkers since giving birth to twins but, ahh isn’t it nice how my belly stretched to absurd greats just to accommodate two new lives-kind of magical no? Yes, it is.
People poke fun at me for being a total nerd, but on the other hand isn’t it fantastic when someone loves learning and gets excited over Albert Einstein’s quotes!?
And yes, I’m pretty bad about functioning in the morning but, maybe that just means I have more energy in the afternoon!
You need to do this for your amazing self. Even if it feels a little silly.
In many cases people hold their self-worth lower than other people. This should change.
Example: If you need to lose weight, tell yourself that you are so worth cooking healthy food for. You are gorgeous and fabulous and deserve to take a little time out of your busy day to exercise. When you want a third helping of cake, tell yourself you are worth the trouble it takes to restrain yourself. (Sometimes this means I tell my husband to take it away from me but, hey, same outcome)
Maybe one of these days you could plan a date night for you and yourself. Just go somewhere you like-the coffee shop or a bistro or theater or ball game and enjoy your own company. Treat yourself nice, get a nice meal or snack, spiff yourself up (in your own style/fashion of course), and don’t you dare think a negative thing about yourself the entire time! Think about your strengths and appreciate the parts of your body that are working properly, as opposed to thinking about your pancreas-don’t even stop there for a second.
You’d be surprised how much this will help guide your decisions regarding your diabetes management in favor of wonderful you.