Secret Giving this Holiday Season


I really think self love also means love and kindness towards others.  I recently discovered Guerrilla Goodness which is “intentional, anonymous acts of kindness performed in playful, creative ways for strangers, friends, and family.”  One example of something listed on the website is to leave $5 Starbucks gift cards with a nice note lying around in different public places for random people to pick up.  Wouldn’t finding something like that totally make your day?  Free coffee from a stranger with a note saying something like, “You are loved”.  Priceless!

I have mentioned before about how I don’t enjoy the Holidays much.  There is a pressure towards spending all one’s money, people are unusually stressed out (often because of money), and the gloomy feelings just run rampant it seems.  This year I want to deflect all that.  And when I read about this one woman’s mission to spread the idea of random acts of kindness I couldn’t help but feel this was my ticket to a more exciting Holiday season.

Have you ever done a completely secret act of kindness?  I did once.  Years ago, a coworker friend was bummed about missing out on a pedicure treat with friends because she was short on cash for the month.  This girl was always giving every last drop to her kids and putting herself last, as many moms do.  So when she came back from lunch I made sure she found a $20 resting on her keyboard.  Her eyes swelled up with tears and she looked at me and said, “Did you do this?”  I said, “Nope!”  She went on to ask others and they all denied it, too.  I never told her it was me and it was really fun doing it that way.  It let her know that someone didn’t even need credit or to be thanked to give to her.  And surprisingly, though I really needed those 20 bucks, I was so happy and felt an incredible sense of joy the entire day for cheering someone else up, secretly.

So I’ve decided to carry out one secret and random act of kindness each week for the rest of the year as a challenge to indulge in the spirit of giving and joy.  Join me!  Or if you have any good (and cheap) ideas, send them my way!

PS: It’s my fellow diabetic and youngest sister’s 21st birthday today!  Happy Birthday Annie!  Wishing you many many more! :D

5 thoughts on “Secret Giving this Holiday Season

  1. Momma Cat

    Well Hello,

    Thanks Sooooo Very much for this Blog, and useful information! I have already qualified for the “spot giving” you have done too. After talking with a Friends (now 26) year old Daughter last month, she has relocated to CA for a Nanny Business, which was great and she totally feel for this little Boy she was taking care of. Now, the parents are talking Divorce, and this likely will seperate them to far away states, so the future of Cass’s care for this little man, is bleak.
    Anyway. I decided she needed a pick me up, so I made a cool card, stuck a couple $20’s inside, and told her to find something that would lift her up these days. I know Cass will find something useful and good to put it toward.
    This was a
    “Feel Good” thing on my part too.

    Then, I see you have a Sister who is 21? Nice, My own Daughter will be 21 on the 19 of November, and she was diagnosed with Type 1 when she was 12 on Christmas Day!
    My prayers are that she won’t indulge too much in the drink, and her friends become her “eyes” to insure she is good with her Blood Sugars during this time of just trying to be “Normal” It’s been a rough go for some years now, but Meg is finally taking responsibility to better manage her disease. I admit to “overparenting” and she had NO mentors in her Jr. or High School, nobody with Type 1 to relate!

    Thank You so very much for your column, its FAbulous!
    mom cat

  2. Sysy Post author

    Thanks, Momma Cat! (I think I’m an overprotective parent as well!) That was such a nice thing you did, very thoughtful :) I wish your daughter the best. I know this is a challenging time in a young person’s life, especially with type 1. I’m sure she’ll be fine :)

  3. Laura


    I have tons of ideas for service during the Christmas season. I was raised in a family and a church where service is a really really big deal (all year round). A few ideas that I love and do with my own kids are…do the 12 days of Christmas door ditch. Pick a family in need and the 12th day B4 Christmas leave 1 thing on their doorstep. Second day, 2 things…etc.
    Also, I have a special box that is our “manger” and when anyone in the family does an act of kindness you put a straw in the manger. On Christmas morning or eve you put baby Jesus in the manger and talk about what you did and the true meaning of Christmas.

    I’ve got more. There are so many awesome things you can do during the holidays! That is what makes it meaningful and helps me to focus on WHY we celebrate Christmas!

    I love your ideas! Thanks for bringing this up!

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