Sex and diabetes can go together, I’ve learned, but I’ll be the first to admit there are unique challenges involved. These were mostly private ruminations that I assumed were not common or normal until last year when I attended the Diabetes Sisters Conference for Women and was present at a discussion about the topic in a room full of nothing but women.
Then the truth came out.
Women were saying things like, “I know I’m low when 20 minutes has passed and I’m not getting anywhere” and “I’m tired of the monthly infections!” and “How can I increase…ya know, moisture?” All the while, many other women nodded their heads in solemn agreement.
So I thought, “Oh, it’s the diabetes”.
Now this does not mean that if someone has diabetes that sex will be any different than if they didn’t have diabetes. It just means that it’s likely that having diabetes will present a few tricky challenges in this department.
I’m not going to go on making some of you squeamishly uncomfortable but I will say that there is no shame in learning more about this subject. In fact, it’s commendable because we know that in a relationship, sex IS important and the quality aspect absolutely matters.
So, I’d like to recommend the book, Sex and Diabetes, by Janis Rozler, RD, CDE, LDN and Donna Rice, MBA, BSN, RN, CDE. All those random letters means they are professionals ;)
I actually got to hear Janis Rozler speak a few months ago. She was awesome. She understands what worries are going on in our heads and her attitude is a very empowered one that is infectious and encourages us to work on our issues with sex in relation to diabetes because it’s worth it!
Anyway, the book pleasantly surprised me. It made me laugh, it touched on emotional intimacy, it shared interesting historic romance tidbits such as Cleopatra and Anthony’s relationship. (Talk about a power couple!)
The book gives a lot of practical information and tips such as how to talk to your doctor about issues and how to keep your body healthy. It even shares information on supplements such as which are helpful and which are scams. The book also dives into some awesome relationship communication techniques that I really appreciated.
Sex and Diabetes goes into topics for women and for men and with an open, friendly tone and makes the point that there are many ways to work to make sex and intimacy better. On that note, I love how sex and intimacy are not separated in this book. The authors focus on sex in a meaningful relationship because only then can two people really work around any diabetes related challenges they may encounter. And while there are challenges, there are solutions. Indeed there are, and this book covers them all.
Great job, ladies.
You can buy the book here.