Category Archives: Diabetes and your body

Real Age Diabetes Tool at Diabetes Care Club

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I work a bit at Diabetes Care Club, writing blog posts and helping out on the forums.  While logging on the other day I noticed they entered into an exclusive partnership with Real Age to create a diabetes specific real age evaluator.  I thought this was cool because I’ve taken the Real Age Test before but was a bit bummed out by how it wasn’t able to capture information based on my diabetes management and therefore not really give me a more accurate or personalized assessment.

My Real Age Diabetes score is 26-which is pretty encouraging considering I’m about to turn 29 in a couple weeks.  That’s the fun game aspect of the Real Age test but it’s not what I consider the most important aspect.  The test asks questions on every element of health imaginable and then, depending on your answers, gives you information and recommendations.

I found this test to be a helpful tool to me because it pointed out my weaknesses in my overall health.  For example, I realized that I’m eating and exercising pretty well most of the time but maybe I’m not as socially active as I’d like to be or I’m not testing as often as I’d like.  Also, the test reminded me about all the annual diabetes wellness check ups I should be having such as a visit to the eye doctor and podiatrist.

We don’t necessarily need help pointing out what we’re doing right.  We need help to pinpoint what we need to improve upon and taking the Real Age Diabetes assessment helps to organize your strengths and weaknesses in an easy to view and understand way.  And yes, it is kind of fun to work to lower one’s “real age”, I’m not going to lie.

Something I want to mention:  The regular Real Age test gave me a score of 24 and the Diabetes one a score of 26.  I think that’s interesting to note because it shows how diabetes does make a difference-not that we didn’t know that!  But it shows that creating a diabetes focused Real Age test was really worthwhile.  The truth hurts but it’s also empowering.  Let’s try to focus on the empowering part and on the part we CAN influence.

Take the test here! (you will have to register and sign in first)

Tips for Dealing with the 2012 Allergy Season

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I see a beautiful forest AND a full on immune system attack…

 

I have major allergies.  By major I mean severe and numerous.  I have been on allergy shots for 11 years where most people are on them for 3 years because I’m allergic to so many things.

Anyway, because I have all these allergies, have been seeing an allergist for over a decade, and because I have a deviated septum and diabetes, further predisposing me to sinus infections, I want to share a few great tips I’ve learned along the way.

Nasal Irrigation is your best friend.

I used to have what I call “eternal sinus infections” meaning I never got rid of them.  I spent years with a constant sinus infection that increased and decreased in severity but never went away.  Eventually, when I was desperate, I saw an ENT (Ear Nose Throat) doctor.  She said, “Ohhh you’ve got a deviated septum, that doesn’t help matters!”  So basically that means my nose is a little crooked and it prevents drainage from one side-helping me get infections really quickly.  She gave me a Neil Med sinus irrigation bottle and it’s been a miraculous cure to sinus infections for me.  I don’t know what I’d do without it.  Neti pots work similarly and are well loved by people out there, too.

If You Take Zyrtec, Save Money!

A few years ago my doctor told me how to save money on Zyrtec (which is pretty pricey). He told me to go to Sam’s Club (or go with someone with a membership) and look for the generic of Zyrtec which is Certirizine. A year’s worth of that costs about a month’s worth of Zyrtec from CVS. HUGE savings and he says it works the same!

Also, if you take Zyrtec, take it consistently before you need it. It needs time to work properly and to work well you need to take it each day-not just when you think you need it.

By the way, be careful with Benadryl, it causes your heart to race and can cause problems.

Managed blood sugars are crucial.

When I got a grip on my diabetes management, I got a lot less sinus infections starting in the first place-which was awesome.  Also, it’s faster to heal from an infection when there is no extra sugar in your body for bacteria to ruthlessly feed on.  People without diabetes can get in on this one as well.  Eat less sugar and you’ll prevent and heal from infections faster!  Also, infections make blood sugars hard to manage so prevention really is key.

Ear Drops

This is a weird one, I know.  I buy these ear drops at the local food store that are made for kids.  They contain olive oil and garlic extract.  You put a few drops in each ear at night and cover with a cotton ball.  This keeps the area inside the ear moisturized so that there is no dryness and less irritation present.  I use it on my kids to help them avoid getting sick, as well.  Apparently, dryness doesn’t allow our mucous membranes to kick out viruses and bacteria and allergens.

Eat Seasonally

How ironic is it that nature provides Spring greens and berries?  These foods are known for being cleansing and detoxing.  These foods help clear up mucous!  It’s like nature knows we’re going to need some help clearing all the pollen that’s out there and wants to help us out!  So buy all the fresh locally grown greens in your area.  Make a lot of salads.  Add a little olive oil, apple cider vinegar, and fresh squeezed lemon.  (Apple cider vinegar and lemon are alkalizing) (lemon is a natural expectorant to help you get rid of mucous).  Enjoy those salads and feel your body letting go of the Winter time heavy feeling that you accumulated with all the stews and nuts and meats you ate to keep warm.

Wash your hair each night.

Pollen gets blown into your hair and if you sleep on it, (and if you happen to be allergic to pollen) you’ll wake up feeling congested and groggy.  Take a bath each night during allergy season.  Get all those allergens off before you go to sleep and you’ll wake up feeling much better, I promise.

Avoid processed foods.

I’ve found that avoiding processed foods does more than just help me with my blood sugars and weight.  It helps me with my allergies.  I find that if I steer clear of alcohol and sugar and foods with chemicals, I cut down on my reactions and sneezing fits, big time.  Perhaps this is because our systems are overwhelmed when we have allergies.  And by keeping our bodies clear of other irritants and aggravators, we keep the body feeling more calm and less on the attack.  Also, less sugar means less inflammation.  Allergies cause quite a bit of inflammation and discomfort in our sinus cavities.

Consider allergy shots.

Allergy shots kind of work like vaccines only they don’t have any adjuvants you worry about.  Allergy shots give you a tiny amount of what you’re allergic to (mine is a cocktail of trees, grasses, weeds, dust mites, molds, and so on).  The hope is that over time, by receiving small amounts of what your body is confused about will help your body stop reacting so wildly to.  Basically the shots sneak up on your immune system and try to tell it “Yo! There is nothing wrong with a little grass, see?!”  Over time, you can either eliminate or lessen your allergy to something.  I used to be severely allergic to dogs and cats.  Now I’m just moderately allergic.  That’s a big deal for me because I used to have asthma attacks and so much congestion I couldn’t breathe near dogs and cats and now I don’t have those issues.  I’m no longer allergic to certain trees and molds and I’m less allergic to other things.  It really works.  The problem is it’s very expensive and stupid insurance companies are still not on board with covering allergy shots.  They don’t think they are a “medical issue”.  Really?  That excuse won’t last much longer.  So hang in there.  More and more should be covering these shots, soon.

Last but not least, drink lots of water

Water helps keep you hydrated, less inflamed, and it helps flush toxins out of your body.  If you have allergies, you really need plenty of water each day.  Surprisingly, this is the hardest thing for me.  I really need to work on this one.  How bout we work on it together?

En Fin…

Allergies make a person miserable, I know.  And those who don’t have allergies often think we’re all wussies.  I know what you’re going through and honestly, these tips have helped me get back to normal, cut down on migraines, and function during this time of year.  I do get more drowsy, so I try to just go to bed earlier and go with the flow.  But overall I feel WAY better than I used to.  And you can, too.

If you have any tips, please add in the comments!

Glucose Quick Sticks Review

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By now you all may be inclined to think that “Sysy doesn’t do negative product reviews”.  But sadly, here’s one for ya.

I got some On the Go Glucose Quick Sticks recently which I tested out the other morning for a low I experienced.  This product boasts a 100% daily serving of Vitamin C and an “on the go” delivery method that needs no water.  There are 10 grams of glucose per serving (meaning you’d probably more than one to treat a low).  It comes in flavors such as watermelon and sour apple.

So the other day, I confirmed my low blood sugar and tore one of the sour apple sticks open.  They just so happen to resemble jumbo pixie sticks with a powdery fine filling.  I poured half of a stick in my mouth and gagged.  Something out there actually tastes  worse than glucose tablets.  Then, because I was low and shaky and my tongue was numb, I started to choke on the powdery glucose.  You sort of chuck it from the packet down your throat and it’s all too easy to choke on, in my opinion.  Maybe not the best for young children.  Or maybe just me.

The fun didn’t stop there.  Since I was shaky and flustered, I fumbled the darn thing (which is as light as a feather) and dropped it.  Powder filled the air and settled all over my desk, keyboard, and carpet.  The only thing it did right, once I opened a second packet and downed it, was get my sugar up quickly.  But the main ingredient is glucose and that’s it’s only job.

I feel like a glucose delivery product should taste decent and function well in a diabetic’s sweaty, trembling hands-because that’s our reality.

So if you see this at the store next to your glucose tablets, look away and grab your bottle of tabs.  Better yet, I recommend Glucolift glucose tablets.  Now there’s a well thought out product for a diabetic.

Natural Supplement for Nerve Pain Relief

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I was sent a free sample of Neuropasil, Nerve Pain Formula recently.  It was developed by a renowned podiatrist who specializes in Medicine and Surgery of the foot and ankle, Dr. Enrico.  I’m all for natural products so I was eager to see what was in this formulation.

You take one tablet twice a day and get a cocktail of vitamins and minerals, including alpha lipoic acid and inositol.  These ingredients all promote optimal nerve health and supposedly you start to experience results in 2 weeks with maximum relief in 4-6 weeks.  I’m not sure I have enough nerve pain in order to experience “relief” since all I ever get once in a while (if I wear high heels) is a twinge of nerve pain under my right toe.  But I can say that after 3 weeks of taking this I haven’t felt any twinges of pain.  So that’s cool :)

I asked Dr. Enrico a few questions about this product:

Who is Neuropasil for?

Neuropasil is a nutritional supplement that people can use to manage nerve pain and support nerve health. Anyone who suffers from nerve pain, or neuropathy, may benefit from this supplement, including people with diabetic peripheral neuropathy, carpal tunnel, fibromyalgia, chronic neck and back pain, neuropathy associated with chemotherapy, among others.

Can people get the ingredients for Neuropasil in their diet?

Theoretically yes, but realistically no.  Neuropasil contains a proprietary blend of B vitamins, minerals like Alpha Lipoic Acid and supplements. While these ingredients are naturally occurring in certain green vegetables, in order benefit from these you would have to consume a very large amount of these foods. Its best to incorporate a nutritional supplement with these ingredients into your daily diet to get the nutrients that you need.

Aside from taking this supplement, what else can people with nerve pain do to help their symptoms?

In relation to diabetic neuropathy, the best thing to do is keep your blood sugar under control and to exercise, which keeps you healthy and releases endorphins which can help ease pain.

Thanks, Doc, for answering those questions.

Here is more info:

Website: http://drenriconutritionals.com/

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/NeuropasilDr-Enricos-Nutritionals/220351811345879

Have any of you tried this product?  What did you think?  I know our feet are really important to us :)

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The Case for the 5 Minute Shower

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(3 minutes if you’re a guy)

This isn’t to tell you to speed it up and save the whales.  It’s a tip I’ve learned recently by default.  You see, I moved to the apartments I live at almost two years ago.  We quickly discovered there was only enough hot water for a 4-5 minute shower.  I had to adapt or die.  Ok not die but you know it’s harsh to be sprayed by freezing cold water when you haven’t even rinsed the shampoo out of your hair yet.

I realized that we often spend a lot of time in the shower.  Most of us lead pretty busy lives and can use to save time wherever we can.  I have learned that I can get an extra thing done during the day by saving 10-15 minutes from my shower.

Many of us with diabetes have dry skin.  It’s a side effect of not having perfectly normal blood sugars.  Showering for an extended period of time in warm water just dries our skin out even more.  And unless you’re an athlete that takes a warm bath to soak sore muscles, or do it for some kind of therapy, there isn’t a really good reason to spend so much time in warm water.  Ok, ok, unless it’s like chicken soup for your soul or something and then by all means, do it.

At the very end of my shower the water gets cold.  I’ve learned to take this on for my benefit.  This change up on one’s body, particularly on one’s legs, boosts circulation, improves the appearance of skin, and becomes a healthy lifetime routine.  It’s short term pain, long term pleasure.  Since doing this, my legs and feet have felt better, I swear.  They used to feel kind of tingly and heavy in the shower and now, because I’m not in there very long, and because the cool water at the end does it’s magic, I don’t feel any of the discomfort I used to feel.  A plus is to rinse hair in cold water before getting out.  It closes the hair shaft and makes it shinier.

My entire routine involves soaping up, shampooing, shaving, scrubbing my skin all over with an olive oil, lemon, and sugar mixture, and then rinsing.  And voila.  A quick 5 minutes that improves circulation, moisturizes skin, and gets the job done.

Treato Offers Prescription Side Effect Help

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I’ve learned of a pretty cool website called Treato which helps organize and combine different people’s experiences with prescription drug side effects.  You can go here to watch a short video that explains how it works.  It’s free and I tried it out with one of my prescriptions and was pleased at how organized and limitless the information that came up was.  For those of us with a chronic illness, I find that it can be overwhelming to deal with prescription drug side effects because we have to figure out how to separate those symptoms from the symptoms we sometimes get from our illness.  For example, I had trouble recently figuring out if high blood sugar was causing dry mouth or if the new prescription I was taking was the culprit and Treato helped clue me in.

I asked Noam Mantel, who works with Treato, a few questions to learn more:

Have you received any feedback from the medical community regarding the safety and efficacy of Treato?

We are pleasantly surprised to receive such positive feedback from the medical community. We genuinely thought the process of having the professionals on board with the idea would take much longer than it has. Today, Social Media plays such a big role in health that people are taking it very seriously, including the pharmaceutical companies. A great example of positive feedback is a blog post written by Andrew Spong which really blew us away (http://bit.ly/stXGx6) .

One of the issues we have come across is info validation. We hope to start integrating medical databases with our personal experiences database so our users can benefit from the best of both worlds at once. We sometimes see raised eyebrows but, especially with professionals, once they see thousands of real patient experiences on one condition or medication, it’s extremely hard to ignore.

What are some practical ways someone might benefit from using Treato?

This is an interesting question because you can take the system to so many places and we hear about new applications all the time. The most obvious way is to get more information on a medication. If you’re already taking a medication and are getting side effects, the site is a great form of assurance that you aren’t the only one getting them. If this is the case, you can compare your medication to similar ones to try and find a medication that less people have said to cause your side effect. Once you’ve found a few potential alternative medications, you can read people’s experiences with switching from your current medication.

Now, this was just an example of people who are already taking medications. People use it to find information about medications they’ve been prescribed, look up medications for recently diagnosed conditions and so on. On a more personal note, I used the site this week for something much less serious. My eyelids were burning when I was exercising so I looked it up on Treato and found out what other people are calling it. This way, I can come up to my physician and say “I think I may have so and so”. This specific application may not have saved my life, but it did make it easier.

Let’s say I look up my medication on Treato and discover that many people have had the same reaction to the medication that I”m having and let’s say I read that several people found relief taking a different but similar medication. How should one go about mentioning this to their doctor for consideration?

We understand how much more difficult it is for doctors today. Patients are coming into their office with printouts of the research they did at home and we’ve heard that some doctors (not all of course) do not care for this. We think the best way to approach a doctor with this is to print out the general statistics you found and then a few specific posts that got your attention. Speaking with doctors, we found that they would respond better to people’s real stories as opposed to medical information from sites. If you show them a few posts of people doing better on a different medication, chances are they will listen.

Of course, if they’re not convinced, you can always show them to the site so they can research the matter further themselves.

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Here’s to making sense of our symptoms and prescription drug side effects!

How Diabetes Affects the Way I Look

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I think I’m an appropriate person to write this post because I’ve always been a little too vain.  I blame that on the fact that as a child when people asked me where I was born and I said “Venezuela” they’d be like, “Oh so you’re supposed to be pretty, right?  Because that’s where all the Miss Universe winners are from.”  And thus began my preoccupation with getting my hair right and freaking out over a few extra pounds so as not to disappoint the general public.  It didn’t help that when I gained five pounds as a teenager, non immediate family from Venezuela was like, “wow, you’re fat!”  Our curvy is their fat, go figure.  Don’t forget, they do call the Brazilian Victoria’s Secret models “curvy”.  Curvy my…

Anyway here goes my list of things that I think can at least be partly attributed to my having type 1 diabetes and having struggled with it.  If I’m being honest and I am:

I’ve got very dry skin.  So dry in fact, that I need lots and lots of lotion and my skin just sort of soaks it up like a lizard.  I soak up Eucerin and Aquaphor for crying out loud.  Oh and high quality lotion is not cheap, mind you.

I have a few extra pounds thanks to insulin which is rather difficult to manage perfectly and thus I use more than a person who doesn’t have to use this type of therapy and it causes a little extra weight gain.  This means I have to be very meticulous in carb counting and I have to exercise a little more than someone else.  It’s a bummer, a real bummer.

I have scars that probably would be invisible had there never been any diabetes.  Of course, it’s true that diabetes that is well controlled doesn’t cause anything, but most of us, at some point, go through a challenging time of not-so-well-managed diabetes and it does cause some things.  I have been fairly active during my life with diabetes and as a result have a good number of ugly scars.  I do like one of them though because it reminds me of a glorious moment during a soccer match.  But there are others like his one on my knee that happened in front of teammates when I ran into a chain I didn’t see in the dark which swung me to the ground causing me to scrape my knee-and confidence on a sharp rock.

My hair is thinner and maybe this has nothing to do with diabetes but I lost a lot during the years of high A1c’s and now that my A1c’s are no longer high, I don’t lose more than the normal amount.  So either it’s a coincidence or it was the diabetes and the not so well managed time I had with it.  I remain suspicious.

I have a lot of broken capillaries but I don’t know if this is diabetes related or not.  However, I’m well aware that diabetes affects the micro vascular and therefore…doesn’t this implicate the capillaries?  This one really bothers me.  My type 1 sister Ana has nothing of the sort and the most beautiful skin and we’ve had type 1 the same number of years so I’ll blame those bad years I had with diabetes and my genes on this one.

Diabetes doesn’t have to affect the way a person looks but, I’ve found that it usually does to some extent.  Dry mouth, chapped lips, fatigue induced slump, the possibilities are endless and can challenge our dignity as fabulous people.  Sometimes when nothing else motivates me to take care of my blood sugars I find I can rely on a persistent nagging vanity.  Hey, I’m only human.

It seems a bit like pouring salt on a wound to talk about this out loud but you know what?  It’s kind of liberating!  And you know that I do this with humor and jest, no?  I find that poking fun at myself makes me relax and not take myself so darn seriously.  Anyway now that I got that out of the way I can think about all the great things I’ve been blessed with.  Like strong legs and freckles and golden brown eyes.

Ultimately, this is my point of all this.  You make sure to do the same next time you’re seeing all the negative.  I know.  It happens.  And it’s ok.  Just move on to the good stuff.

Have a fabulous weekend!

Biopsy? Me? But I Already Have Type 1

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That’s sort of always been my line of thinking.  I won’t get cancer, I won’t get other diseases, because I already have type 1 diabetes.  So when a dermatologist looked at my back today and said it was imperative I get a biopsy done, my first thought was, “Biopsy? Me? But I already have type 1.”

The doctor went on to state that I have a lot of funny looking moles, lots of freckles, lots of what he sees as reasons for concern.  He asked if I had ever been to the tanning bed.  I lied and said, “No, never” because (and in my defense) he asked in a way that prompted me to imagine getting bopped on the head if I so even hint at an affirmative.  I did admit I have spent plenty of time in the sun but I’ve never burnt to the point of blistering.  And I try to make sure I never burn.  The doctor said the susceptibility was largely genetic and that my skin was a perfect storm for skin cancer.  When I asked why, he explained that I have skin that tans easily but I have a lot of moles and freckles and sun spots and sensitive skin to boot.  I’m also developing scar moles which begin as a result of a small injury and result in a mole that can easily become cancerous.  I seem to have three.  One showed up when I was 13, the other two within the last three years.  The doctor said I’m likely to get more of these in the future and he said “don’t worry you can see a plastic surgeon if needed”.  Correction.  I can’t afford a plastic surgeon.  You gotta be kidding me.

To be honest the way this doctor talked just about scared me out of my skin.  By the time I was driving home I was imagining my Alex, struggling to take care of our twins all on his own.  I kept trying to snap out of the worry.  It does no good and I am probably fine.  However, this doesn’t exactly calm my anxiety that has been roaring lately and it sure reminds me of the reality people with diabetes face.  It’s not like because we have this disease, that’s what our plight in life is going to be.  We are going to have all the other struggles others have only with diabetes layered inconveniently on top.

That’s what is so frustrating to me.  I just got back into working out now that my foot injury has healed and my mysterious illness of the last few months has disappeared and I now have orders to take it easy and not sweat.  And that means my mood and my blood sugars will be affected.   Type 1 diabetes means that my risk for developing cancer is slightly higher than if I didn’t have diabetes.  Type 1 diabetes means that my recovery for surgical procedures and injuries is going to be challenged.  Type 1 diabetes means that my cup of anxiety can much more easily overflow with life’s experiences because type 1 diabetes keeps it full to the brim.  Sometimes it’s just all too much to handle.

And that’s why I CAN’T have cancer.  I hope someone up there is listening.

 

*Update*  Test results:  Benign.  Phew! :)

Do The Big Blue Test 2011!

An initiative started by the Diabetes Hands Foundation in 2009, the Big Blue Test is an awareness campaign that also gives back and clearly emphasizes the importance of exercise in managing blood sugars.

To participate is super easy: sometime between today and the 14th of November, test, do some activity, test again, and note your results online.  To do that last step, go here, and click on the “Do the Big Blue Test” button.

Each test is a life saving donation of life saving supplies to someone who desperately needs it.  Next time you’re taking a walk, doing a workout, out dancing, or even chasing your kid across the playground, test before and after and note your results online.

Let’s let everyone know that people with diabetes do give back, we do take care of ourselves, and we are powerful in number.   And most of all, let’s get some life saving supplies to those less fortunate than us.

Oh and watch this powerful video and spread the word!  Have a great Tuesday Smile

A Type 1’s Decision Not to Have Children

Being a type 1 and open to pregnancy was a decision I didn’t take lightly or without many tears of worry.  It’s a personal decision and whether a woman does or doesn’t choose to have children, the emotional turmoil and heartache involved definitely exists.  Today, I’m so grateful to have my friend and fellow type 1 diabetic, Stacey Divone guest post.  She blogs at The Girl with the Portable Pancreas, is married to Joe, has had type 1 for almost 30 years , and she has decided not to have children.  In keeping with our Fabulous Friday topic of self love and respect, I asked her to write about her decision and a heartfelt and honest post from her is what follows.

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Diabetes. It’s something that was once, a very long time ago, a death sentence. And although the tools available to monitor glucose levels has improved dramatically, the risk of complications still exist.

Pregnancy. It’s something that crosses the mind of every women in one way or another. That’s one of the reasons women were put on this earth; to bear children.  Even the pregnancies of the healthiest women carry some risk of complications.

Diabetes + pregnancy. It’s not always an ugly equation. Healthy babies are born to diabetic mothers all the time.  However, putting two risky elements together, change the entire decision making process.

As if there wasn’t already a ton of effort involved in managing diabetes on a daily basis, that effort doubles or even triples while working to maintain a healthy pregnancy.  The endless testing, carb counting, insulin dose adjustments, logging, doctor visits, worrying.   For 40 weeks.  I’ve been doing those things to some extent for almost 30 years.  But the life or well being of a child growing inside me has not been dependent on it. It has been a great challenge for me to get my a1c below 7.  It has only happened twice that I remember in recent years.  My body has been through a lot in my diabetic life.  And so has my mind.   Also the prime child bearing age has begun to slip away from me. We are not in any way resolving to the old fashioned theory that women with diabetes cannot have children.  But to stretch the stress even further, especially since complications are beginning to creep into the picture for me, is something that neither Joe nor I want to put me through.  It may feel like the right decision for us but it certainly wasn’t an easy one. Or one to be happy about.  I can’t help but wonder if it weren’t for diabetes, if I would have a child. Or two. I can’t help but feel like I’m robbing my husband of fatherhood.

Yes, there are other options for having a child that doesn’t involve a pregnancy. But there are a ton of different pains endured with those as well.  Adoption is a long, exhausting process that entails spending a significant amount of money with the possibility of repeated heartache. Surrogacy is a very complex situation that requires money as well as an indefinable trust with someone outside your marriage. These are not effortless options.  Nor are they realistic for everyone.

It’s painful to know I’ll probably never be a mother.  It hurts when I hear of new pregnancies.   Especially from diabetic friends. It’s upsetting to be surrounded by friends and family with all their children; hard not to feel like an outcast.  But I try to remember the good things of being childless. I can spoil my nieces and nephew without having to actually support them. Joe and I can plan a night out or vacation any time we want. I worry about when I get home from work to be with my husband but not stressing about picking up a child by a certain time. I can focus on my diabetes management. I can sleep.  These are the things I remind myself of when it gets hard to accept.  And treasure the time that I get to spend with Joe.

Having a baby changes everything.  For everyone.  But if the bad changes can possibly outweigh the good ones, I don’t think it’s wrong to want to avoid that.

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Thank you so much, Stacey.  I really appreciate you sharing this with us.  Can anyone else relate?

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