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Many of us share lots of aspects of our diabetes lives online for the world to see. What are some of the aspects of diabetes that you choose to keep private from the internet? Or from your family and friends? Why is it important to keep it to yourself? (This is not an attempt to get you out of your comfort zone. There is no need to elaborate or tell personal stories related to these aspects. Simply let us know what kinds of stories we will never hear you tell, and why you won’t tell them.) (Thank you Scott E of Rolling in the D for this topic.)
What do I keep private from the internet? If you have known me a while you will know I don’t do private. I try to not filter myself in order to appear “better”. Oftentimes some of my posts are controversial. But there are some things I will not share. Not because I don’t want to but because I am extremely sensitive and I fear a simplistic understanding of what I write (not from most just a few)
I typically choose all my words carefully and deliberately. But I’ve allowed myself to be shoved off my blog more than once because of criticism, hate mail, and heady assumptions. I admit that any broad misunderstandings are my fault. In those cases I didn’t write clearly enough. Every so often though, I think I’m being clear, I test my blog out to a few people and ask them to tell me what I’m saying, the feedback says I’m clear, I will publish officially, and then I will get a few responses that crush me. When that happens, it seems like some readers are looking at things in a black and white fashion, skipping over some very important words I include, and instead of seeking clarification, they go off the rails at me.
Recently, I spoke to someone who I would regard as a nuanced thinker. I shared what I haven’t shared before. That will come out later for me to talk about but in the meantime I’d say that I feel sharing is highly influential and important in our community. What some of you have shared in the past has been very freeing for me. Being able to relate, to know I’m not alone, to feel I’m not a freak, etc. One way we can encourage more of this honesty and openness is to read with the same honesty and openness and respond in kind. We want to support and seek clarification, not jump to conclusions and crucify. I’ve seen a lot of bloggers get tackled over a thought they had, a reasonable human thought. And that doesn’t help us. So keep sharing friends. I will keep reading with my heart on my sleeve, understanding that you and I are no different and that you have every right to entertain certain thoughts and feelings. I try to remember too, that you are at liberty to change your mind anytime, just like me.