“Kids First, Diabetes Second” is the first book by Leighann Calentine, who has a young daughter with type 1 diabetes and writes the popular blog D-mom.com.
This book is for someone who has a child with type 1 diabetes. Whether your child has just been diagnosed or has had diabetes for a while, this book would be a great resource to have at home.
Leighann seems to be one of those moms that is really organized and determined to figure things out. Her child has only had type 1 for six years and yet she has worked to bring order and efficiency to their routine all the while, prioritizing her child’s experience of childhood.
I really respect these efforts. I think it’s very sweet to see parents work so hard to acknowledge their child’s feelings and unique struggle while still taking care of their health with something as delicate and volatile as type 1 diabetes.
This book has helpful and practical information on many common scenarios involved in raising a child with type 1 diabetes like school, birthday parties, sports, and play dates.
I would definitely recommend it to anyone and everyone who has a child with diabetes. Leighann is one smart cookie and I would expect anyone to get lots of value from this book.
That said, speaking as someone who did grow up with type 1 diabetes and is now an adult who can look back, I’d like to share a little bit from my experience. It’s unique to me but perhaps not so uncommon and I think it may serve as a gentle reminder on the emphasis we may give diabetes:
Now that I’m 29, I can honestly say I don’t regret those times I felt left out at school. They didn’t scar me. The times I went to birthday parties and couldn’t have cake were not big deals. Or maybe at the time they were to my young mind, but I learned to appreciate the true meaning in a get together, which was the friendship and fun and laughter involved. Other kids may react differently to experiences like this so I understand that everything varies depending on the personality of one’s child.
Now that I’m 29, what I do regret are all the times my blood sugar was less than great as a child with diabetes. Childhood is a short period of time compared with adulthood. To face complications in young adulthood is a scary thought or reality that no cake or ice cream could ever relieve. In adulthood we contemplate having a family and we need to be healthy to do this. In adulthood we need to get through school or some kind of learning experience and be productive and build a life for ourselves and it really helps to be healthy. For our bodies to grow appropriately in childhood and our brains to develop well we need stable blood sugar management.
I tricked my parents as a kid, so they’d see a good number on the meter when really, I had mixed my blood with saliva to shield them from a high. But their efforts were very much on keeping our blood sugars controlled even if it meant missing out on something edible and delicious.
Looking back I feel as if it was a gift and a lesson to me and now I can say that I’m not worried about fitting in or missing out on foods and I’m more concerned with being true to my unique self and focusing on the bigger picture.
To me, part of the bigger picture is that our society and it’s habits around food are in such a dangerous state, that instead of figuring out how I can fit in it, I am figuring out how to live well despite it even if it means not enjoying many things. Actually, I’ve learned new things to enjoy so that I don’t feel deprived, my blood sugars stay stable, and I’m also leading the way for my family.
I am teaching my two young children not to fit in to the American way of eating and many aspects of the American way of living because I don’t see it as healthy. And I hope that makes it easier for them to be healthy and happy adults who instead of figuring out how to fit in, choose a better alternative.
So while I have NO DOUBT that Leighann will raise a healthy and intelligent daughter with diabetes and her book is full of information that is not to be missed, I hope you’ll keep in mind that as a child enters adulthood, diabetes may tie for first. It ties for first in my life and I’m ok with that because I have found no other way to stay very healthy. And that allows me so many more pleasures in what I hope will be a long, long life.
To buy this excellent book, go here.