We’re so good at it. All of us. Or most of us, anyway.
I just read an article in Oprah’s magazine about a woman who has worked as a teacher and a life coach. She mentioned that she witnessed art students being instructed to draw straight lines and circles for the longest time. And even though they felt frustrated about such a beginner task, she noticed they rarely saw the imperfection of their circles and straight lines.
Now that she works as a life coach, she helps clients accept the flaws in their life.
I was reminded how denial is our way of procrastinating on the fear and discomfort and shame we feel when we confront the truth about ourselves and our situations in life.
The thing is, those unpleasant feelings dissipate really quickly once we see truth, accept it, and act on it.
The most healing thing I’ve ever experienced is acting on the truth. Only, the first thing to do before acting on truth is realizing it and accepting it. Doing that made the right actions possible in the first place.
And the right actions bring the right results.
I have always noticed how people will genuinely believe in a false truth and will act on that and then wonder why they aren’t getting the results or outcome they want. And the trust is we can put 110% of effort into the wrong actions and get nowhere. This feels unfair but it’s just the way the world works.
It’s absolutely crucial to be brutally honest with ourselves about why we’ve gained weight, about why we’re lonely, about why we are financially tight, and about why our blood sugars aren’t where we want them.
Only then can we take the correct steps towards improving our situation. And only then do we experienced the sense of peace that brings a full acceptance of our reality. Our reality really isn’t that bad when we look at it. It’s more the thought of it that’s scary.
Look at an area of your life you want to improve and sit by yourself for a few minutes. Be really honest with yourself about why things are the way they are. Cry, scream, let out your feelings. And then meet them with a plan that’s full of clarity and hope. Be really specific about your plan and layout steps for the next month, week, and day. You’ll feel better when you’ve done this, I promise.
This is something I help clients with in my health coaching. Because sometimes we just need some support. Nothing wrong with that.