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Self Esteem Tips

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It’s “Fabulous Friday” again and I’m working hard to focus these days on self love and respect.  Cheesy?  Maybe…but it’s an effective way to get a grip on the emotional problems we have.  And since those of us with health issues like diabetes have plenty of emotional stressors to deal with, working towards self love is very worthwhile.

A crucial element of self love is a strong self esteem.  None of us love ourselves all of the time but some of us rarely love ourselves.  Either way most of us could use some reminders on how to strengthen our self esteem:

– Live with integrity

Work towards being honest, just, respectful, understanding, patient, and compassionate.

-Don’t be a pushover

Always stand up for yourself when you need to.  You are not below anyone and your needs are important.

-Try to think positive more than negative

This will become more of a habit with time and practice and will greatly support your mental and emotional health.

-Set your bar high

Don’t expect too little from yourself, you are fantastic and capable and amazing!

-Be responsible for your thoughts, feelings, and actions

By owning what comes out of you, you will become empowered with awareness and this will help you live a life within your standards and values.

-Build your life around your personal values

Try to work where you feel you’re not compromising your values.  Be in relationships that don’t pressure you to compromise your values.

-Belong to a community that is supportive of your goals for yourself

Like the DOC!

-Keep in touch with what you need and try to get it

Do you need to lose weight?  Start with a plan and steps you will take to get there and take it slow.  Do you need more emotional support from your spouse?  Sit down with them and calmly explain what you would like from them.  Do you feel like your diabetes is out of control?  Ask for help.  It’s ok to feel this way only you don’t want to feel this way for very long.  Fight to get what you deserve, like good health.

-Surround yourself with family that supports you whether they are blood related or not

Let’s face it, sometimes the family we were born into is not the family that we would have chosen.  While it’s important to give of yourself and help others, it’s also important to spend time with people with whom you feel safe and accepted.

-Lastly, forgive yourself.

You are human and will make many, many mistakes before your time on earth has ended.  When you forgive yourself you’re not letting yourself off the hook, you’re just acknowledging that you are worthy of love and compassion.  When we forgive ourselves we find it much easier to start the next day with a clean slate.

 

XOXO

Have a great weekend!

Man or Woman in the Mirror

Photo courtesy of Healing Dream

Photo courtesy of Healing Dream

 

The most effective diabetes advocacy is how we live our lives as people with diabetes.

Years ago, after many years of bitterness and anger, I realized the best thing I could do for other people with diabetes was to take care of myself the best I could and be kind. I wondered if my example could set off a chain reaction of sorts. I hoped someone would meet me and find out I had type 1 diabetes. I hoped they might notice my gentle sincerity and my slow but sharp wit. I hoped they would think to themselves, “she has diabetes? gee, she looks healthy”. I’d tell them a little about diabetes and they would listen. I would then imagine that maybe some day when that same person was involved in a conversation about diabetes and someone said that diabetics were sick and lazy, this person who met me might say, “That’s not true, I met a type 1 diabetic who seemed really healthy and happy and explained to me that the disease is extremely difficult to manage. She told me that everyone struggles differently with it and that what helps people with diabetes is not to judge them but to encourage and support them.”

Yes, I am dreaming. But I prefer to dream big.

And of course I am committed to pushing for what people with diabetes deserve and for advocating for our rights. However, our greatest influence comes from our actions. The energy we spend on anger and frustration over other people is energy we could have spent on ourselves. And you know as well as I do, diabetes requires every ounce of energy we’ve got.

When you want to tell someone off for an ignorant comment about diabetes, stop and remember that telling them off will not help the rest of us in any way. Rude behavior will make other diabetics look bad and I for one don’t want that association. Be firm, be direct, be insistent, but be respectful. After all, we are all ignorant about something, right?

Instead of focusing on all the obstacles in your way, narrow your view to all that you CAN do. You’ll find there are so many mountains you can move.

Relax, breathe, and remember that change begins with you (and I) and the greatest inspiration we can provide others is to work hardest on the man or woman in the mirror.

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