Aurora took this picture of “daddy chasing brother”
Alex is going to be away a few weeks working out of state which is leaving me going from cliff hanging to free falling. Or so it feels.
It’s not just that I’m doing more by myself but also, Alex and I are used to doing everything together so it’s hard to have him away. And of course, there is the issue of having twin toddlers and how they are at an age where it’s much easier to have a one adult per child ratio happening.
Just the other day at the grocery store, Henri took off running as I was paying. I left Aurora by the cart and took off sprinting after him. Henri is the fastest little boy I’ve ever seen and of course, he’s mine. Just as he was about to pass the last set of doors before getting to the street, an elderly man saw him and his lunatic mom (aka-me) a ways behind him, screaming “STOP Henriiii!” The man shuffled his feet to the left and then to the right repeatedly while bent over with arms spread to the sides to prevent Henri from getting past. The man looked exactly like a center on the basketball court. Henri tried one last attempt through the man’s legs as the stranger whom we’ll call “light on his feet Bob” snatched him up and handed him to me.
I was so embarrassed I apologized and thanked “Bob” and he said while grinning, “Nah, honey, now you see why they say it takes a village?” A village of kind, nimble footed souls, yes. Then off I went in search of Aurora who had picked up a few bags of M&M’s, clutching them close to her chocolate loving heart. It’s funny, she’s never had M&M’s before, doesn’t see TV commercials, and yet her instincts tell her they’re good.
So that’s why we don’t go out often enough. Let me ask you all a desperate and serious question. Would it be awful to use those …child leashes-I mean restraints? I keep cringing at the thought of using them but I cringe even more to think of one of my kids meeting a car while on the run. They do it a lot. They think it’s funny to see me freak out. Did you see one of the latest Modern Family episodes where Cam and Mitchell use one for their daughter while at Disneyland? Did you see the way the family reacted? Like it was inappropriate and ridiculous looking? Like they were treating her like an untrained puppy? WELL. That’s what I’m talking about. And they were two adults for one child.
My mom had five kids and she says that she has learned that twins are uniquely difficult (not more, just uniquely) because of how they’re at the same developmental stage. And I think that’s what is tough for me. I can’t go anywhere safely or without tons of stress but almost everyone imagines I should be able to (as I imagined I’d be able to before actually experiencing this wonderful madness). It’s not that I feel judged. I just don’t feel quite understood. Even some of my siblings don’t see what’s so challenging about it. And then there’s the third baby I have to take care of-my diabetes. The combination makes me feel like I’m risking the kid’s safety too often and my health, too.
That’s it. I’m ordering child restraints right away. Thanks for listening. And next time we all see a kid-on-a-leash, let’s think about how the parent behind the child is simply scared that their little runaway will run away and get abducted or struck by a car. Or injure a helpful stranger trying to stop them.